Publisher’s Points to Ponder: An eXceptional Friend

There is almost nothing better than having someone in your life who has your back. I was reminded of that this past weekend when my ex, KP, showed up with tools in tow to get me out of the mess with my home gym/sauna.

I decided to take on the difficult task of a home renovation. My bright idea was to convert a room into a gym and sauna. After watching several “Do It Yourself ” episodes, I was convinced that I could take on this project without a hitch. Old houses have their own agenda causing me to realize my reno was a pipe dream.

My house was built in 1930 by Dr. J.P. Lovett. It is a two-story colonial with a rear addition after a tornado destroyed the back of the house in the mid-50s. Included with the addition was a bonus room connected to the garage. It is almost 200 square feet and has an exterior entrance and exit. There was previously a bathroom inside of this room, which I plan to convert to a sauna. I never imagined building a sauna would entail so many steps. I was in over my head, at least until KP came to the rescue.

KP and I worked together as a team to accomplish what was initially an impossible task. He assisted without judgment, listened to my ideas, and restored my confidence. He set the foundation for me to build the gym and sauna of my dreams. We tore down walls and built them up again, ironically similar to the friendship we had torn down and attempting to rebuild. While watching him work, I thought about all the times he has been there for me as a friend above all else. I have known him since I was 22 years old, and he has watched me grow up. I could not think of one time he refused to come to my rescue. Yet, I wallow in resentment over one wrong as though I am a perfect vessel. None of us live up to the standards of perfectionism.

Perhaps it is time to let go of the mistake that has put a barrier between my friend and me. If you’re struggling with this issue, maybe you should let go, too. I feel at peace when I reflect on the highs of our relationship. I am blessed to have this exceptional man in my life. KP, I love you!