10 Ways to Show Love to Your Spouse Today
Since it’s February and Love Day is coming up soon, I thought it might be fun to focus on marriage this month. This week we’ll start out with something simple to ease everyone into it: Ten ways to show love to your spouse.
Life is busy. Things get stressful. In life, the very first person that we are likely to neglect when things get crazy is our spouse. So, here is a little list of things you and I can do today to communicate love to our husband or wife.
1. Give your spouse at least one genuine compliment. If you feel like there’s not a single positive thing to say today, look harder. Find something. Even if it’s just that you like the fact that he wears deodorant. Hey, it’s a start.
2. Find one act of service to do for your spouse. It can be something big (finally clean out that disastrous garage) or something small (pour her a cup of coffee), but find one way to serve your spouse.
3. Say only positive things about your spouse. Today, don’t let a single negative opinion about your spouse cross your lips. In fact, find something good you can say about him to someone today. Bonus points if that someone is your mother.
4. Ask your spouse at least one question that shows that you care. Ask him how his day went. Ask her if she’s excited about a new movie coming out. Show that you value your spouse’s feelings and opinions.
5. Recall at least one happy memory that you share. You don’t have to wait for some kind of perfect segue into this topic. Any silent moment is the perfect one to smile and say, “Do you remember that day…”
6. Choose to ignore little annoyances. I know you hate it when you can hear your husband chewing. I know it drives you crazy when your wife’s makeup and hair tools are spread all over the bathroom. Today, let it go.
7. Ask your spouse this question: “How can I help you today?” It doesn’t matter if you have five million projects you need to complete by bedtime. Stopping to ask your spouse this question (and then following through if he needs help) will make him feel more loved than you know. It also communicates that you’re on the same team.
8. Give your spouse top priority. Today, put your spouse before the kids. Before the neighbors or your mother or your best friend. Give her that feeling that she used to have when you would zero in on her when she walked into a room.
9. Pray for your spouse. If you want your marriage to change, if you want your spouse to see things differently, if you want peace in your home, if you want to be a better husband or wife, pray about it. Ask God to help you. Ask God to bless your marriage.
10. Say, “I love you.” Words matter. Don’t assume that your spouse should know that you love her. Say it, today and every day.
Sometimes we get so out of practice in offering real, selfless love to our husband or wife that we feel awkward even just trying to be kind to each other. If you want your marriage to be different, it starts with you. Take a few steps today toward building a sweeter life together.
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